A Guide On How To Love Me:
More Than Sharing your love language.
It can be difficult to let your partner in sometimes but communication is the key to any good relationship. Being a writer doesn’t always make communicating easier but I think that it does give my spouse a heads up when I need to talk about something because usually, I can just send him a poem which then transitions into “what do you need?” or “why are you sad?”
When I was writing “A Guide On How To Love Me,” I was just thinking about how much easier it would be to get exactly what we wanted out of our relationships if we were more honest and open with what it was that we needed, wanted, desired, etc…more than just sharing a love language (although, love languages are definitely helpful.) Wouldn’t it be so nice to be able to hand over a poem and say, “okay…today, I need this” and your partner being able to read it and understand? Or even vise versa, it can be hard to love someone the way they want to be loved, if we’re always thinking about how we would like to be loved.
I also thought this prompt could be used for just yourself. How could I love myself, more, better, at all? If I were to sit down and make a list of things, a guide, for myself on how I would like to love this body, this soul, etc…What would I want? Turning the prompt inward could be such a healing and helpful thing for a lot of us (including myself) who struggle with self love, self care, and self appreciation. How could I love, care, and appreciate myself more?
So, I created this prompt below and I would love for anyone and everyone to participate. A few people have already sent in amazing pieces which you can see on Instagram by checking the hashtag #MTAFprompts. They have made my heart so full! I love being apart of a community that is willing to pour their heart into an amazing piece and share it with everyone! So check it out, let me know what you think, if you’re not apart of the writing community on Instagram, send it to me here! I would love to read it!
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Poetry Prompt!!!! 𝐀 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐨𝐧 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐓𝐨 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐌𝐞 Hosted by me!! ReBecca DeFazio | More Than a Flower 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐄𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐲: – Tag 3 friends – Share to your story – Tag me in your piece – Use the hashtag #MTAFprompts – Send me your piece via DM [𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐝𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐬 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐭!] – One thing I forgot in the image – Must be following me! Challenge ends on September 20, 2019 at 12am EST 𝐏𝐫𝐢𝐳𝐞𝐬: – The winner will get a full feature in my newsletter! – As well as work with me on an interview for my blog! – The chosen piece will be shared on my story as well as in the blog post! – You will also receive a personalized poem from me! You can choose a theme or let it be a surprise! 𝐑𝐞𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐜𝐚 𝐃𝐞𝐅𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐨 | 𝐌𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐚 𝐅𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 [Transcript: A Guide on How To Love Me: There are so many things that are buried in the depths of my mind and I want you to be able to understand me so I let you in. When I let you in, wander gently, wrap empathy around me, I don’t need sympathy. Hold my hand, touch my thigh while you drive us to get my favorite coffee, don’t try to dry my tears or save me from my self-destructive history. Whisper in my ear, “I believe in you.” Whisper, “You are worthy.” When I take my clothes off and show you the raw skin; the skin that hasn’t seen the outside world in years, the skin that has scars and heartbroken poems written along it… Don’t make a face. Don’t look at me like, you see my pain; embrace me… Make me feel like a warrior, like a goddess that rose from the waves of an angry ocean; storms run through my veins. Love me. Love me but don’t romanticize the “broken,” do not tell your friends my battle stories. Love me unconditionally, the depth of me, the shallows, the way that I brush my hair away from my face. There are so many ways to love me. There are so. many. ways. If I can ask just one thing… as we go about this life… it would be to just, love me authentically. ]